10 Things Long-Distant Lovers Would Understand

Some people do not take the idea of long distance relationships seriously and most might even think that it's a kind of joke - being in a relationship with someone far away. They often ask the question "How could they fall in love without being together?" I don't think you have to be with someone to love them. Thinking that love should have any physical contact might not even be love at all. Such preference could be only for the reason of benefiting in sex, bluster, reputation, and displacement. But then, majority of the people do not know the struggle of being in a long distance relationship and I must share why I personally admire these people.

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1. Value of Presence
Long-distant lovers value presence more than any other relationships because of its scarcity. Unlike other relationships today, they often text on their phones and Facebook over their laptops while they stay together. When the two distant lovers meet, they would spend almost all of their time with each other - avoiding any form of distraction that could waste their limited time together.


2. Learning to Trust
This is where most long-distant lovers fail to succeed - trust; but once they survive this challenge, they will have this trust for each other like no other else, especially when they already are together. This is the 'true faith' of every relationship and they have nothing, but words, videos, and pictures that could easily be manipulated. They do not see each other everyday and without trust, this relationship can easily fall off. However, other relationships today can be with each other everyday and already find it so hard to survive in trusting their partners! If that could be so difficult for them, what more can it be for the long-distants?


3. Internet Connection / Phone Signal Problem
Since 99% of these lovers only use their gadgets to see or talk to each other, how hard can it be for these barriers to cut the capability of their connection? It will probably take days or weeks to deliver a single letter just to say I love you, unless you have the cutie little Hedwig of Harry! Although, other relationships would only require a single cab to meet their lovers or outside the school every after class to inform that they have this kind of problem. Well, what would you expect from a 'girl on her period' getting paranoid over why her boyfriend doesn't reply from another country? I assure you, it might already be the end of the world.


4. Holiday / Personal Celebrations
Would it be Valentine's Day, Christmas Day, Relationship Anniversary, etc. both lovers would always wish to be together - getting envy over other lovers that are probably together. 


5. Lovers' Struggles
When long-distant lovers fight and cry, they wish nothing more than a sweet tight hug and a kiss. Unfortunately, how lucky other relationships could do all these after their fights, but would rather waste the opportunity from all the pride they try to carry over their shoulders. 


6. They Know How to Communicate
Long-distant lovers have nothing, but words and texts to understand each other. They do not have the capability to do almost anything except talk, talk, talk, and talk! 


7. The Airport
The Airport has always been their greatest excitement and their greatest tragedy. Every time one books and schedules a flight, both of them almost cannot wait for the that very special day; and when that day is nearly approaching, they will both probably feel very nervous, insecure, and excited: nervous about what can happen afterwards, insecure about how they might look like when they meet, and excited about meeting again. However, joyful days will pass and here comes the time when the other one has to return to his or her own town. You may not understand how painful this can be until you experience one yourself - knowing that it could take months or years to be with each other again.


8. Financial Consumption
It could be VERY expensive for one to buy a plane ticket just for the sake of meeting his or her partner. It is not just a one-way ticket. It's a round-trip, paying double the amount of a single flight. Imagine how costly it is to spend money over plane, food, hotel, date, and transportation for just these few days or few weeks of being together. This is one of the greatest sacrifices when it comes to this kind of relationship. Well, if such thing is done, it would only mean one thing - the partner is worth the sacrifice. In addition, it is not only the travelling that would require the cost. Remember that lovers strive to send each other gifts on their special days and that shipping might cost a lot, especially in international deliveries. 


9. Time Differences (For Internationals Only)
There are actually two types of long-distant lovers: domestic and international. Domestic lovers struggle less because of their time similarities. However, international lovers struggle so much when it comes to getting the perfect time for communication. The circadian rhythm has always been their enemy, requiring one of them to stay up late just for the sake of speaking for like an hour or two. 


10. Surviving The Insults
Their families and friends would always say, 

"Stop being in a relationship with him/her who lives thousands of miles away from you. You will not be happy." 

"Why are you always locked up in your room?" 

"Why are you always wearing your earplugs?" 

"I'm sure that both of you won't last long." 

"How could you trust a person whom you do not see? He/She might already be with someone else." 

Some people think it's easy to survive these, but hearing them from time-to-time would make them hate the world so much - having these lovers against the world. It gets very irritating, you know. However, some relationships fail to survive these mockery and sometimes realize that what others say might be right. This is one of the biggest mistakes one might make and I suggest lovers to never listen to these kinds of influences. Fight for what you think is right and stay f****ing strong!

In conclusion, I personally admit that I am presently in a long-distance relationship. That is the reason why I know how it feels like to be in it. We're in a relationship for more than a year and after all the hardships, we stood stronger than ever. Each and every day, it just gets better and better. Fortunately, we're just in a domestic LDR and knows that we are still lucky enough for being closer than all other LDR's. Still, we have to ride the plane for it. I do not plan to give any flattery for us and what I mean about admiring long-distant lovers is admiring those who have already survived after the very very long difficult and destructive fight. It is not easy to survive this relationship and how I wish people could see the beauty of it.

To all successful long distance lovers over there, GOOD LUCK AND YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN OUR GREAT INSPIRATION for a successful, yet difficult relationship.

Thank you!
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